- Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
LMFT 124737, APCC 6176
Master of Arts, Counseling Psychology
Throughout this extraordinary time my practice will be online. I have found it surprisingly easy to establish a strong emotional connection through video.
Among my interests:
- Pandemic fatigue, including pandemic-triggered anxiety and depression (along with pre-existing anxiety and depression)
- Relationship stress exacerbated by shelter-in-place
- Stuckness in work and life
- Harsh inner-critic and the cultivation of self-compassion
- Attachment/childhood trauma and healing
- Intergenerational trauma and healing
- Grief and loss
- Shame, and healing from shame
- Trauma-informed resilience practices
- Nervous system regulation and stress management / distress tolerance
- Mindfulness in everyday life/meditation-in-action
- Creativity and play, and overcoming blocks to inner freedom
- Parts work, multiplicity, and dialectics
- Secular Buddhist psychology
- Unlearning white fragility, toxic masculinity, and white cis hetero American male-body supremacy
Whiteness in Psychotherapy
The couch in my therapy office is occupied mostly by white people. Anxious white people and depressed white people. Obsessive white people and compulsive white people. White people who hurt people and white people who hurt themselves. White people who eat too much, drink too much, work too much, shop too much. White people who are bored, envious, guilty, numb. Racist white people and antiracist white people. White people who look across the room and see a white therapist listening. We talk about everything. Except being white.
—Natasha Stovall, white clinical psychologist
I want to talk about being white.
What does it mean to be white in a society deeply divided by race? How do I feel toward my whiteness, toward the white parts of me? Which of these parts am I willing to look at? Which of these parts am I not ready to see?
White privilege, white advantage, white-body supremacy. White guilt, white shame, white fragility. I want to lean into the uncomfortable exploration of the parts of us as white people we would rather not see, to examine where our feelings toward our whiteness intersect with our uniquely wounded (and resilient) human parts, and to do this in the non-shaming space of the therapeutic relationship. I believe that in exploring our whiteness together we may begin to untrain ourselves from centuries-old implicit bias and more present-day white liberal racism, unlearn our unconscious false sense of superiority, move toward antiracism consciousness, and take antiracist action from a place of internal security, ultimately recovering our full humanity. I believe that for every self-identifying white person this is the therapeutic work of our time.
Informed and inspired by the work of Resmaa Menakem (My Grandmother’s Hands), Robin DiAngelo (White Fragility) and many others, my work for myself as much as my clients begins with tracking, contacting, studying, owning and accounting for the ongoing harmful impact of white-body supremacy on our own minds and bodies as much as that on people of color. The end of this uncomfortable work: unlearning these and all forms of embodied supremacy in the service of true self liberation and soul healing.
Self-identifying as a white cis hetero able-bodied American male, I invite a collaborative investigation into the myriad locations these identities intersect within and between us. While open to all, this part of my practice targets well-intentioned yet unconsciously racist, classist, ableist, misogynistic, queerphobic, xenophobic white men interested in cultivating an ongoing awareness of the ways in which we have been complicit in and continue to perpetuate systemic white cis hetero American male-body supremacy in America and beyond. In the words of Robin DiAngelo, our learning will never be finished.
Love in the Covid era! Feeling more like roommates these days instead of lovers? Feeling unseen and unheard despite countless hours together? Longing for your partner to really get what you're experiencing in these uncertain times? You are in good company. Passionate about couples work, I can help you and your partner:
- Learn what it is you're really fighting about
- Understand how and why you get stuck
- Repair from the stuckness
- Return to feeling loved, supported, and cared for again
I am a trauma-informed, mindfulness-based, queer-allied and poly-friendly psychotherapist curious about anything and everything being evoked within and between you. Having navigated the serene and stormy seas of my own interracial marriage of over 20 years, I know firsthand the joys and challenges of intimacy in hard times. I want to co-create a space in which you each feel safe to share your deepest relational longing, and for that longing to feel truly seen, heard, felt, and understood—perhaps for the first time.
My work is emotionally-focused and attachment-based. Mindful communication is a passion, as is offering practical tools for sustaining long-term intimacy such as learning and practicing your partner's love languages. It is my experience that couples therapy can have long-lasting positive effects, even from just a few sessions. It is also my experience that it can even be fun!
My practice is informed by the following modalities:
- Hakomi Mindfulness-Centered Somatic Psychotherapy
- Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- Somatic Experiencing (SE)
- Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP)
- Mindful Focusing
- Motivational Interviewing & Harm Reduction
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
- Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
- Authentic Movement
- Family Constellations
- Karuna Training (secular contemplative Buddhist psychology)
- Mindful Schools
- Young Adult: 18-25
- Adults: 25-65
- Seniors: 65+
See trainings listed above
- Credit Card
Individuals $180/70 minutes, Couples $280/100 minutes
Sliding scale based on income and space available
Zoom video only at this time
- Tuesday Morning
- Tuesday Afternoon
- Tuesday Evening
- Wednesday Morning
- Wednesday Afternoon
- Wednesday Evening
- Thursday Morning
- Thursday Afternoon
- Thursday Evening
Please share at least two times that could work for you.
Rawna Romero, LMFT 41466