- Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
Master of Arts, Counseling Psychology
I embody a warm, anchored, accepting and male-identified presence. In therapy, I seek to create an environment where you feel safe to share what matters most…your feelings, fears, sadness, hopes, and dreams. Together, I seek to collaborate with you to move beyond coping to a more connected sense of yourself.
I use my adaptive instincts to tailor my approach to your unique needs. To create long-term transformation I primarily use a psychodynamic approach with individuals (understanding how the past is impacting the present and paying attention to our relationship) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples. EFT is an evidence based approach the helps couples to deescalate their conflict and rebuild their bonds with each other.
I help Individuals:
- With anxiety and depression to understand the causes of the symptoms, develop strategies to increase functioning in the present and then collaborate with you to address the root causes.
- To manage life transitions including grief and loss, changes in job and life circumstances.
- To address relationship challenges between romantic partners and family members; and to help people feel more connected to themselves and others.
I help Couples:
- To change how they manage conflict, improve communication and increase their connection.
- To heal from instances of infidelity and attachment injury.
I’m curious by nature and enjoy the unfolding process as I get to know the uniqueness of each person I work with. I’m a Bay Area native currently living in San Francisco. My career path includes environmental work, real estate, IT, and as non-profit professional supporting our immigrant community.
I believe that paying attention to my own self-growth is critical for me to provide support to others. For fun I like to hike in the forest, cycle on the road and kayak in the water.
My journey to being a therapist began as I mourned the loss of my father 25 years ago. I benefited from group and individual therapy and was inspired to volunteer to support others who were also grappling with grief or a life threatening illness. When it was time to forge a new path I reflected on my experiences of being present for others and completed a master of arts in counseling psychology at The Wright Institute in Berkeley.
Influenced by my passion for social justice and a desire to challenge myself, I’ve practiced in two different community mental health settings. In one I provided individual and group therapy to adults overcoming severe mental illness. In another setting, I provided therapy to adults, couples, youth, and families. I have also supported middle school students in a school setting and helped adults at a detox center overcome drug and alcohol addiction. During these experiences I’ve worked with a wide variety of issues from depression and anxiety to helping people with severe trauma to learn skills to manage their lives and address the underlying issues that the trauma created.
I combine my clinical training, with my intuition and my access to my heart, mind and body to support each client. With individuals, I see the therapeutic process as similar to a journey of discovery that I embark on with each client. I play the role of the experienced guide who leads, walks besides and follows my client depending on what I judge to be most helpful for the journey.
With couples, I embrace the leadership that is needed to help couples bring down barriers and reconnect. I use an EFT lens to help couples become aware of their patterns of conflict and learn how step out of it.
I value equity, justice, authenticity, compassion, growth, play and honesty.
- Young Adult: 18-25
- Adults: 25-65
- Seniors: 65+
- Premarital Couples
Marginalized Persons, Caregivers
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Humanistic Therapy
- Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
- Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy
EFT Externship, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Motivational Interviewing, Working with Addiction
My practice is done via teletherapy which allows me to provide support to anyone in the state of California.
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$140 Individual, $140 Couples (50 minutes), $200 Couples (75 minutes)
$100-$140 Individual, $100-$140 Couple
Teletherapy and, when it is safe to meet in person, my office will be in the Inner Richmond/Laurel Heights area of San Francisco.
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Please contact me by email, phone or text to schedule an initial phone call or video session.
firstname.lastname@example.org or (415) 424-4514 .
Deb Lyman, LCSW 22113