- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Master of Arts, Counseling Psychology
Is there something you've always hesitated to say out loud, because if you did, nothing would stay the same?
Like in that serenity prayer, are you looking for the difference between what you can change and what you have to accept?
Wisdom's hard to come by in these ominous times, and serenity can be fleeting. This is your one shot here, so you may as well speak your truth. Let’s figure out what you need and what you already have, so you can accept yourself even when it’s hard, and participate fully in your own life. What you believe is your Kryptonite may also be the root of your superpower. I'd even bet on it.
Therapy with me can be talky, weepy, a laugh riot, companionable silence. It's my job to understand your world as you see it. We’ll make use of my professional training, life experience, imagination, and intellect to find new perspectives on your relationships, your past, and your present. We’ll experiment with ways for you to manage difficult emotions, feel more compassion toward yourself and others, and live with integrity and purpose.
I’m plainspoken, Brooklyn-born, not shy, easily moved, and hard to shock. I’ve worked in different fields and met people from every walk of life. I’ve had life adventures from drumming in a punk band to modeling in a lesbian calendar. I've given birth and I’ve helped people die. What serenity I’ve found, I’ve worked hard for. And from day one I was the designated therapist in my family, among my friends, at my various workplaces. I’m devoted to helping people figure out how they feel—and why they do—about what matters most in their lives. When I finally entered this profession, it was clear I'd found my right livelihood.
I was a women’s studies major in college, and completed my master’s in counseling psychology at John F. Kennedy University. I've also read and studied philosophy, Buddhism, Jewish ethics and rituals, Marxist economics, the foodways of five continents, and other fun stuff (I love learning!). Before Grateful Heart, I saw clients at the Pacific Center for Human Growth and the JFK Holistic Counseling Center in Oakland. I’ve trained in working affirmatively with clients who identify as LGBTQIAA+, kinky, and polyamorous, as well as with the intellectually gifted and the neurodivergent.
My default position is to accept and support you as you are, without judgment. You don’t need to be “doing well” or “making progress” or “being nice” for me to be on your side. I presume it makes perfect sense for you to see things and feel about them the way you do, based on what’s happened to you before and how you experienced it (two different things!). I hold no particular sense of "normal" to compare you to, and if you're preoccupied with "you vs. normal," I'm apt to notice. I'll be listening for the stories you carry around in your head, whether or not they're kind, and whether they serve or oppress you. Meanwhile, we’ll reflect together on matters of concern both big and small. My clients tend to look forward to coming each week because they find my curiosity, creativity, and genuineness a great comfort.
I think the human situation is far too dire not to laugh at, and so urgent that our only recourse is to take the long view. We are animals with enormous brains that make us think we’re in control of things, which means we're bound to run into trouble along the way. But beauty is always there. Noticing the scent of the breeze or the distant birdsong is a magic trick we all need to remember to do, often. And my research tells me that 99.4% of people are total weirdos! So let your freak flag fly, baby!
- Adults: 25-65
- Seniors: 65+
- Persons in Polyamorous Relationships
- Gender Fluid or Gender Non-Conforming Individuals
- LGBTQIAA+ persons
- Persons Experiencing Grief and Loss
- Persons in Polyamorous Relationships
- Persons Recovering from Traumatic Events/Experiences
- Persons Struggling with/Recovering from Addiction
- Persons with Histories of Physical or Emotional Abuse
- Persons with Disabilities
Persons in Kinky/BDSM Relationships; Fertility/Pregnancy/Childbirth/Postpartum; Parenting; Menopause; Divorce; Intergenerational Trauma; Overcoming Shame and Low Self-Esteem; Neurodiverse Couples
Somatic Attachment Therapy
I work with couples too! And let me be the first to tell you, both of you are absolutely right, I guarantee it. Let's tackle the question of how you can be together without one of you being wrong.
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Telehealth only at this time
- Monday Morning
- Monday Afternoon
- Tuesday Morning
- Wednesday Afternoon
- Thursday Morning
Call or email me with some good times I can call you back. We'll talk about what's bringing you to seek therapy. Then we can schedule a few meetings and decide if we're a good fit for each other. I believe therapy works best when we meet every week, but in some circumstances I'll consider more or less frequent meetings. I look forward to connecting!