- Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
Master of Arts, Counseling Psychology
If this is love, why is it so hard?
I work with couples that feel the impact of a parent in significant ways.
Does your mother (or mother-in-law) swing from hot to cold with her emotions? Does she either idealize or demonize people?
Do you doubt yourself because you grew up with someone who didn’t always make sense, but you believed her because she’s your mother?
Was your mother very self-absorbed? Perhaps she was overly focused on some aspects of you and ignored you in other ways?
You grew up around a lot of volatility and you don’t want to bring that into your intimate relationship. Easier said than done. When you were growing up, your vulnerability was overridden. Now, letting someone get close to you is complicated.
I can help you. My specialty is supporting people with complex backgrounds to have healthier partnerships. Together, we can hold a vision for your relationship as a safe haven, fueling you both to face life’s challenges.
I bring creativity, warmth, humor, and a wealth of tools to support you in ending cycles of conflict, removing obstacles to intimacy, and building new patterns of interaction. You can count on me to be patient, direct, enthusiastic, gentle, yet fiercely committed to each person’s goals.
As a queer, cisgender woman, I have a social justice slant and an awareness of white privilege. I enjoy supporting couples of all orientations and gender identities.
I have advanced training and supervision in couples therapy, emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), the psychobiological approach to couples therapy (PACT), and Hakomi couples work. I have a master’s degree in integral counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, with additional specialized training and experience in Hakomi and drama therapy. My work is informed by a decade of experience as a bodyworker and reflects a deep understanding of improvisation and play from years of professional acting. I co-lead a weekly drama therapy group in prison with Marin Shakespeare’s Shakespeare for Social Justice program.
Our culture has a myth of happily ever after, as if finding love led to happiness, security, and belonging. Getting into relationship is not a point of arrival—it’s a portal. It’s like a cauldron that stirs up our hardest emotions: shame, anger, fear, avoidance, judgment, you name it.
I can shine light on what lies outside your awareness so you can begin to unwind stuck patterns, find new pathways, and become allies in each other’s healing. Your relationship can be a place of safety and nourishment.
You don’t hear/see/understand me. Do I matter to you? Can I depend on you?
The stakes are high and our partner is the person who can hurt us the most. For this very reason, being in relationship has great potential to:
• Heal core emotional wounds
• Be a sanctuary
• Offer an ally for life’s challenges
Trusting the wisdom of the body : the body holds a memory of everything we’ve experienced and also holds the keys for change.
Unpacking the influence of society : therapy can create safety to reveal the pervasive, subconscious societal values that have shaped us. As we unwind these influences, there is room to reclaim our identities. I seek to cultivate cultural sensitivity, a social justice lens, and awareness of white privilege.
Creativity, play, humor : I incorporate movement, embodiment and expression. Plus, humor is healing!
A transpersonal perspective: I honor whatever you hold as spiritual.
Connection, presence, and love: I aim to create enough safety for you to look past your defenses and see underlying patterns in yourself and in your relationship. A safe relationship can actually heal attachment wounds.
- Young Adult: 18-25
- Adults: 25-65
- Premarital Couples
- Persons in Polyamorous Relationships
- Formerly Incarcerated Individuals
- Interfaith Couples
- LGBTQIAA+ persons
- Persons in Kink/BDSM Communities
- Persons in Polyamorous Relationships
- Persons Recovering from Traumatic Events/Experiences
- Persons with Histories of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Persons with Histories of Physical or Emotional Abuse
Persons With a Parent with Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Drama Therapy
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Gestalt Therapy
- Humanistic Therapy
- Somatic Psychotherapy
- Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy
I bring all of my creativity and passion into the room, drawing on every resource I’ve encountered in my nearly five decades on the planet. This can range from expressive arts, narrative therapy, somatic interventions, inner child work, drama therapy, nervous system regulation, and communication tools.
My work is informed by the philosophies of Hakomi and re-creation of the self. Hakomi is a mindfulness-centered, body-oriented, and experiential approach to psychotherapy. Re-creation of the self views the self as innately whole, expansive, and resourced. The approach offers a map for shifting out of fragmented and illusory trance states that get in the way of the ideal self.
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3120 Telegraph Avenue, Berkeley, CA 94705
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Please contact me to set up a free 20-minute phone consultation to explore working together. When you reach out I'll respond within 24 hours to set up a call. I look forward to connecting.
Suraya Keating, LMFT 43996